Oct. 3, 2010
This is a conversation I had with my son, while shopping:
My son: Mommy, you know Reed had a brother before and he died.
Me: Oh really, I didn't know. Was he younger than Reed.
My son: I don't know, but I know he died just like ours.
I Pause. This takes my breath away... We check out, now we're in the car driving.
Me: So, how did you find out about Reed's brother dying.
My son: My other friend told me, his brother died just like Ethan did. I think it was his umbilical cord, too.
Me: So, how did you guys start talking about this?
My son: Oh, in religion. Andy my friend always says a special prayer for his brother in heaven.
Me: Do you do the same for your brother?
My son: Yes, I just say "special mention", and that's it. I don't say anything else but I'm thinking of Ethan. I don't want anyone to ask me more about it.